A reader wrote in recently with a difficult (and common) question about when to speak up in a group, and what to do if you speak and then wish you hadn’t. From my reader: I read your message on how you can always center yourself — anytime and anywhere. However…

Traveler, your footprints Are the path and nothing more; Traveler, there is no path, The path is made by walking. ~ Antonio Machado, excerpt from Traveler, There Is No Path (Trans. Asa Cusack) Last summer my friend Melodee related a story about centering that stuck with me. When Melodee was…

In my workshops and coaching, I’m often asked about how to resolve specific conflicts. Especially now that more workshops are happen on Zoom, the questions that appear in “Chat” will often have similar themes. Two themes that appear frequently are ones around new relationships and others around “letting go.” New…

The more you think you know about something, the less you actually do. I just finished reading Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know, by organizational psychologist Adam Grant. The book’s full of great stories and interesting facts (and great cartoons!). For example, here’s an exercise…

Common Questions About Conflict In my workshops and coaching, I’m often asked about how to resolve specific conflicts. Especially now that more workshops are happening on Zoom, the questions that appear in “Chat” will often have similar themes. …

I had an interesting conversation with a friend recently about masks. Of course I’m always alert to situations in which conflict might rear its head. I’m not looking for it, but I pay attention when it arises. …

A few years ago, I found myself in a skid on an icy bridge. I reacted, turning the wheel in one direction and then another. In that perilous moment I forgot all I knew about how to handle a car. High emotion can cause reactive states. Neuroscience tells us that…

Once upon a time when I was very young, maybe between three and seven years old, I would often stay overnight at my grandmother’s house. My grandmother, my grandfather, and my aunt Mary lived together in Oak Park, Illinois. I’ve written several posts about Mimi, which is what we cousins…

Beginning again and again is the actual practice, not a problem to be overcome. — Sharon Salzberg About 18 months ago, I wrote a post about exiting an airplane — something I haven’t done for over a year now. As I made my way to the exit trying to make…